Gay cheating story

Hibbens” is a pseudonym the author chose to protect the privacy and safety of her family. But more importantly, and much harder, I had to do the work so I could honestly say that I loved myself more than I loved our marriage. And that means spiritually, according to my church.

Anne: I appreciate you explaining that.

We had 300 people at my wedding. But annulment is in the church’s eyes, the marriage. Attend a BTR.ORG Group Session today.

Transcript: Finding Out My Husband Betrayed Me With Men

Anne: I have a member of our community on today’s episode. My dad clapped and smiled as I walked to the edge of the diving board.

It could mean that for whatever reason they’re turning to men as a way of acting out. It’s so important for women to know that this devastation is normal, that anyone who has been through something like this would be devastated.

Savannah: Yes, because people look at me and I am an insanely happy person, and people know me as always happy, like you’re always happy.

I no longer confuse attention with worth.

I can’t rewrite my past, but I can live differently because of it.

I’m actually getting my marriage annulled right now.

Anne: I am not super familiar with Catholic theology, so can you explain a little bit more about how that works?

Savannah: I’m just starting the process of annulment, and pretty much, from what I understand, and I may even be getting some of this wrong.

But staying stuck in shame didn’t make me better; it just kept me closed off.

For my husband, he identified as gay. There’s a particular kind of shame that comes when you realize you’ve become the source of someone else’s pain. It’s not that it didn’t exist, but it created when one or the other was untruthful. I ask for connection instead of escape.