Why do women like gay men

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Compare that to the rugged, beer-stained jeans and yesterday’s T-shirt of a “real man,” and, well… it’s not hard to see who stands out in a crowd. Lesbians were added as a target because although they have little in common with gay men, they are also unlikely to give biased love life advice.

Russell and his team crafted identical Facebook profiles.

Universal sex differences in the desire for sexual variety: Tests from 52 nations, 6 continents, and 13 islands. The relationship allows for a safe space in which both parties can let their guards down, be themselves, and share their feelings openly.

Second, straight women love gay men because closeness with gay men provides a window into how the minds of men work, something that women want to know as they navigate dating waters with their straight male peers.

a straight man), but also affected the degree to which the women (particularly attractive ones) were willing to engage with the man on a more intimate level” (Russell et al., 2018, p.13-14).

This novel research provides insight into the development of friendships—both those between straight men and women, as well as gay men and straight women.

Science backs this up. The group of women I’m referring to are often called "f*g hags," a term that manages to be derogatory toward two groups: women and gay men.

The term "f*g hag" refers to a woman, usually in her 20s or 30s, who loves hitting the gay bars with her gay male friends. Maybe the man of your dreams is more like a fairy godmother with abs.

In particular, it appears that anxiety and concern over a straight man’s sexual intentions serve as a barrier that slows the pace of intimate friendship development between straight men and women, while the removal of this anxiety paves the way for women to quickly develop trusting and intimate friendships with gay men. And who knows?

Rather, this research suggests that these guys and gals can take some of the best things about friendship to an even more meaningful level.

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More about the Blogger: Vinita Mehta, Ph.D. This explanation, however, is based on the stereotypical assumptions about gay men and femininity.

Participants were asked to imagine sitting in a waiting room with a male stranger who initiated a conversation with them.

Initially, women provided ratings of how comfortable they would be interacting with this stranger based on a generic scenario in which they were unaware of the hypothetical man's sexual identity. They’ll dissect your relationship drama and actually care.

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Whether he’s your soulmate, your mirror, or your best friend, the bond you share can be powerful and transformative. It’s self-care on another level—facials, exfoliation, skincare routines. Straight women's friendships with each other can get sticky, too.

The first asked women to predict their levels of comfort when engaging in hypothetical conversations with men. Why? Because they listen. While those stories are exceptions, they remind us that love is about connection, not categories.

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💡 So Why Do Women Fall for Gay Men?

Let’s break it down:

• 🧠 Emotional intelligence – They listen and understand.

• 🎨 Aesthetic appeal – Style, grooming, and beauty.

• 😂 Humor & Wit – They’re often hilarious and fun to be around.

• 🛁 Self-care vibes – They take care of themselves, and it shows.

• 💓 Safety & Comfort – There’s no pressure.

  If he is gay, the friendship will develop more quickly and be facilitated by the woman’s reduced anxiety over his potential sexual interest, and she may engage more openly and intimately. When a straight woman hangs out with a gay man, she begins to put the puzzle together that men, in general, treat sex differently than women do.

  Finally, straight women love gay men because they are emotionally attracted to the fearlessness and lack of self-consciousness in gay men.

  Women reported feeling more comfortable when they found out that their hypothetical male conversation partner was gay, rather than straight, and this association was explained by their reduced anxiety about the man’s sexual intentions.

  To explore whether women’s responses related to hypothetical scenarios would play out during real-life interactions, the second study brought women into the lab to participate in one-on-one interactions with male strangers.